Monthly Archives: June 2010

If you ever want to hear from us again…..

I have  a HUGE favor to ask of all of you. If you could PLEASE fill out a short little form for me I would sure appreciate it.  If you can at least put down your name and email it would just make my life so much easier. We are trying to get contact info organized so that we are able to get in touch with people while we are gone, and having everyone’s info on this data base would be wonderful!!  I started adding people’s info myself, but it was taking me like a million hours to get it done. So…  even if you have signed up before to get updates etc. please do it again!!!   CLICK HERE. Thanks a bunch :)

Totally unrelated side note. I just put my kids to bed, and I’m listening to them talk, and what do you think they are talking about?  How much they do NOT want to go back to swim lessons tomorrow. Poor kids have a mean mom that is forcing them to learn to swim. They will probably never live through this week of lessons. Love those kids ;)

-lindsey

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Uganda.

I am the kind of weird person who absolutely love to research things. When I was pregnant with our oldest daughter, I researched the price of diapers at every store within 20 miles of here.  I knew exactly  where I could get the best price :)  I research everything like crazy. And I love to do it. So….  naturally now that I am moving to another continent, I spend a lot of time looking for interesting things from places in Africa. I stumbled across an amazingly interesting blog about a month ago, and have been reading it every since. I REALLY wanted to share this blog with you. I can’t even explain the reaction I had to what is going on in Uganda that this couple is blogging about, your just going to have to read about it for yourself. The blog is Sixty Feet . Please take some time to read the blog and pray for the kids in that institution. I’ve included an excerpt from the blog below. I think once you read that, you’ll really want to learn more and will check out the blog/website.

Taken from Sixty Feet:

Uganda adores it’s children in a collective sense but ignores them on an individual level.  Beating children is common practice as is pawning them off on grandmothers, aunts, or other family members (to live, not just for the afternoon).  As a woman, you’re nobody unless you’ve had children and the more you have the better, but mothers love their children much differently here.  One reason they have so many is because they expect a few to die.  One woman told me “I’ll just have another one” after her second born, a four year old, died of an unknown cause. She loved having children but the loss of that one didn’t slow her down.

I went with Natalie recently to Mukisa after hearing her stories from that place which broke me in two.  I went to see it for myself and if it’s possible to be thoroughly defeated by one look on a place or person, I’m sure it happened to me yesterday.

The Ugandan government created this facility for “stubborn” children- street beggars, disobedient kids, unwanted orphans, handicapped and mentally disabled kids, etc.  One child I met was dropped off at there at ten days old by her fourteen year old mother.  I do not know how she survived for three years in that hellish place but she bounced around and played as if it were a funhouse.  Another was left there by his grandmother for not doing his chores – he tried to hang himself during his first week and he’s only eleven years old.  One boy was crippled and blind because his grandmother poured acid in his eyes and broke his leg so he would bring more money while begging.

There was another who couldn’t walk right and had a mental deficit of some sort and I found out he was ten years old when his parents were told by a witch doctor that they could acquire wealth by sacrificing their son.  They paid him to kill the boy by bludgeoning him to death but he failed and the boy escaped, but not without suffering permanent brain damage and losing a lot of function in his legs.  The police pulled him off the streets and dumped him here.

The next picture is of some of the smaller boys drinking the milk we brought for them.  That box of milk and one bowl of grey, watery soup was all they got for the day.  Does it stand out to you how bright and shiny those milk boxes are?  It’s because the kids were so dingy and filthy in comparison.  You wouldn’t normally think a commonplace box of milk would stand out like it does in that picture, would you?

Unwanted girls don’t often make it to this place because they can be sold into prostitution so of the 250 kids there, probably 200+ were boys.   Of those 200 boys, about 50 weren’t wearing clothes.  Most of them sleep together on either the floor or on the few bunks but a few unlucky ones are put in special cells.  Exceptionally stubborn kids are locked into a urine soaked room of about six square feet- they are naked, given no bedding, no food, and no contact for “as long as it takes” before the social workers feel they can be trusted on their own.

I asked if anyone was in a room that had no padlock on it and the social worker said no so I peeped  inside.  A starving little naked kid was in there looking back at me!  I smiled and asked his name -Tom- and then looked accusingly at the social worker who knew he’d been caught.  Before we came I was warned not to stir up trouble because If Natalie loses her access to these kids then who would advocate for them?  So I knew I’d earned some freedom to give Tom the only thing I had on me, a granola bar, without getting in trouble and he inhaled it in seconds like a wild animal.

I asked Natalie how she got involved with this place and she said she passed the sign for it one day while driving out of town.  It’s a haggard, hand painted sign that says only “Mukisa: Rehabilitation Center for Children” on it and she intuitively knew that didn’t sound good so she drove right up to the compound and snooped around.  Now here is where you will stop believing me if you haven’t already- she could not find a single adult on the property and what she found instead were rooms of naked children locked up with some of them chained to the window bars.  After a billion frantic phone calls, she learned the place was supposed to be government funded but paychecks were never issued.  The headmaster and house mother were not about to work for free so they began locking the children up during the afternoon and night and letting them out once a day to feed them if they had anything at all.  Two hundred children locked up and starving with no supervision is what she saw that day.

Fast forward two years to yesterday when she took me on a tour of the facility she has managed to improve to at least a place where the children get occasional meals and a few stitches of clothing.  She’s gotten one girl into permanent boarding school because the headmaster didn’t want an HIV+ girl to deal with and she’s enrolled another twenty or so in day school in the local village.  She brings clothes and food on each visit and she’s been working tirelessly to raise awareness for their situation.

Recently they suffered a measles outbreak and the headmaster brought in a witch doctor who made multiple slices in each kid’s leg with a razor blade, that was his treatment.  Since the kids have no toilets and no parents to teach them any different, they live bathed in their own urine and feces so naturally all their little legs were infected within days.  This is the kind of thing Natalie’s up against.

This was the meal for the day.  I don’t even know what they used to make this soup but you can tell it’s basically 99% water.  It’s because of Natalie they even have bowls to eat from.  Before she found them they were throwing the food on the floor of that building and letting the kids fight over it on their hands and knees.

Below is one of two rooms with beds.  There were about 50 beds so even though they double up, that’s only 100 out of 250 kids sleeping in a bed at night.

“They use their mattresses”.  It’s what they told me when I asked where they urinate at night.  I had noticed the doors had padlocks on them and I already knew there were no toilets.  This room smelled so strong of ammonia that my eyes watered.

Below is a group of new kids that arrived just before we did.  It was raining and chilly yesterday so they were all wet and shivering.  Below that is a motherless kid they found walking the streets.  His hair is red  because he’s malnourished and his face, mouth, hands and shirt were covered in yellow snot.   The third picture is of a little tribal boy, naked except for his beads, who was getting kicked around by the older boys.  I don’t know his story or how long he’d been there but he was my daughter Ellis’ age but he looked dead inside.  He didn’t respond to anything, not even the boxes of milk we passed out.  I picked him up and he was limp and stared right through me.

If you want to know how you can help these poor souls, I’ll tell you frankly the best way is with money.  The most effective thing we can do for them is buy them local food and pay their school fees.  School is neither good nor free in this country but Natalie pays for a few kids to attend the local school when she can.

Do pray fervently for my little friends in Mukisa.



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Golf Outing!!!!

Woah. It has been a week of fund raisers and now its time to get motoring on the next one!! First off, thank you SO MUCH to everyone who made the Life-Threads sale successful!!   Thanks to both the fabulous people who spent many hours helping me sew the clothing, and also to the fabulous shoppers who attended the sale!!  And also a special thanks to everyone who donated to the garage sale and to a few special ladies who helped set up the garage sale, and to all of you who came out and shopped!!  We are overwhelmed by the support this last week!! You guys ROCK!!

On to the Golf Outing. Saturday, July 24 at Wallinwood Golf course we will be hosting a great time of golf and food to benefit our mission work. CLICK HERE to view and print the registration form. We hope to see you all there :)

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Life Threads!!! Check out the goods and come to the sale!!

Well….  June 8 is fast approaching. I’ve basically been running a sweatshop out of my sewing room for the last 3 weeks, but I almost have everything finished!!!  Remember that 100% of the sales support our work in Tanzania!!  For those of you that stumbled to our blog looking at the clothes, and have NO idea what were doing in Africa, here’s a 2 sentence explanation for your reading pleasure.

Matt and I adopted a daughter from Ethiopia, God used that process to open our eyes to the need around the world and has led us to serve our brothers and sisters in Christ in Tanzania, Africa. While in Tanzania I (lindsey) will be working with orphans and at-risk children doing basically whatever I can to show them the love of Christ, care for them, feed them, educate them etc. and my husband Matt will be doing some business training to help the Tanzanian’s to better be equipped to provide for themselves and their families.  And that my friends is our lives in a nutshell :)  For a larger version of the story check out the links on the top of the page :)

Anyways… back to the clothes…..

I also posted all the pictures on our facebook page, with the prices listed as well :)  Just click on the little tab up on the left hand top corner of your computer screen. See it??  It says ‘facebook’ :)

So… Don’t forget, June 8. 6-8pm. 1111Godfrey, Grand Rapids. On the corner of Hall and Godfrey. Be there. Tell your friends. Buy clothes. Help kids. Be cool.

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Love for Orphans Transforms.

I came across an article by Jedd Medefind, who was one of the speakers at the Orphan Alliance Summit Matt and I went to last month. It is really just a wonderful piece, and even though its long, I hope you take the time to read it.  When Jedd speaks about the fact that Love for Orphans transforms, I want to stand up and cheer for the statement. But honestly, I’m on my porch all by myself. My neighbors might think I was a little strange……  So anyways, please read the article and be blessed by what it says.

By Jedd Medefind | President, Christian Alliance For Orphans

Unwanted infants in ancient Rome were often disposed of via the practice of “exposing.”  Whether undesirable because it was malformed, female or simply inconvenient, the child would be left alone, outside the city walls, without defense before glaring sun, icy winds or roving animals.

In 374 AD, the Christian emperor Valentinian banned the practice.  But for centuries prior, a marginalized group gained a reputation for rescuing these children:  Christians.  The early church was known, even among many who despised it, as a people who defended the orphan.  Believers went outside the city to find infants abandoned there, taking them in, and often raising them as their own.  This witness was one powerful factor in the vibrant life and growth of Christianity in its first 300 years, and at other high points in history as well.  It can be that way again.

Last month, 1,200 Christian orphan advocates from across America and beyond gathered in Minneapolis.  At moments, the ethos and interactions felt almost electric.  As one band leader expressed, “It felt like that was the first time I’d been worshipping and every person in the room was really a Christian.”   I understood what he meant.  From families with adopted HIV+ children, to foster parents, to individuals serving the fatherless around the globe, the spirit of that community carried the feel of the early days after Pentecost.  As best I can discern, here are four key reasons why:

Caring for orphans reflects the heart of God. From Isaiah’s call to “defend the cause of the fatherless” (1:17) to James’ placement of orphan care at the heart of “pure and undefiled religion” (1:27), the biblical mandate is clear.   But this is not merely God’s expectation of us; it is a mirroring of His own character.  “He defends the fatherless,” declares Deuteronomy 10:18.  Describes the Psalmist, “He places the lonely in families.”  To be like our heavenly Father, we’re invited to do the same.

Caring for orphans makes the Gospel visible. At the heart of the Christian story is the God who pursued us when we were destitute and alone.  He adopted us as His children, and invites us to live as His sons and daughters.  Perhaps nothing makes this truth more tangible than when Christians follow in their Father’s footsteps, opening heart and home in unconditional affection to the child that has no claim upon them but love.

Caring for orphans defies the gods of our age. Darwinism’s sole ethical imperative is to ensure one’s own genetic material carries forward.  So like Gideon tearing down his father’s idols (Judges 6), we assault this dictate when we seek to ensure the survival, and thriving, of a child that does not share our genes.  Meanwhile, the purposeful sacrifices required to love this child flout the demands of other gods also, from materialism to self-actualization to comfort.  The cost must be counted.  But—compared to the depth and richness found along the path of caring for orphans—these false gods are shown to be as lifeless and unsatisfying as statues of bronze or wood.

Caring for orphans invites a journey of discipleship. “I see these kids changed,” explained a woman who helps Christians get involved with foster care, “But I think the parents are changed even more.”  It’s true.  Every family I know that’s opened themselves to parentless children has not gone unaltered.  And though the road can be hard, even painful, virtually always it leads closer to Jesus.  Expressed one adoptive mom recently, “People have said, ‘Oh, aren’t they lucky, you rescued them from whatever.’  And I think, Are you kidding?  I’m the lucky one.  I get to be their mom.  And I get to be daily rescued from my selfishness, and my impatience, and things that are just as disease-ridden in my soul. (this is me….  you have no idea how much Kia has saved me from myself. If it wasn’t for her, I would be living the all american dream with 2.5 kids in a comfortable house, which is exactly what God does NOT want for me. )

Ultimately, here’s the result I see again and again:  love for orphans transforms.   It transforms children as they experience love and nurture they’ve come to live without.  It transforms individual Christians, as we encounter Jesus deeply and personally in a destitute child.  It transforms the broader community of believers as well, pulling us corporately beyond a religion of self-development to a costly-but-muscular faith.  Finally, love for orphans transforms a watching world, as it sees—perhaps for the first time—the Gospel embodied.

Close friends from Washington, DC, Tom and Leah, adopted a little boy from an African nation two years ago.  He’d been found, abandoned, at the edge of a forest, umbilical cord still attached.  “He was left for the hyena,” described the old woman who discovered him when the newborn’s cry startled her milk cow.

When I heard that story, I couldn’t help thinking of the early Christians, going outside the city walls to take in abandoned infants.  I feel the same about what’s going on in Colorado, where so many Christians have adopted from the foster system that the number of children waiting for adoption has been cut from nearly 800 in 2008 to just 365 today.  The same goes for countless partnerships between U.S. Christians and churches abroad to care for orphans within their home countries as well.

Christians are again becoming known as a people who defend the cause of the fatherless.  As we do, the world won’t be left unchanged.  Neither will we.

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